A Place of Welcome – An Interview with Ed Dallow

Posted by on May 8, 1999 in good idea! | One Comment

 

Available as a PDF This Article is from the Spring 1999 edition of good idea!, also available here in a fully formatted PDF file.

Numbers are not everything, but when they change dramatically, it is worth asking what is going on. In the past three and a half years, Christ Church, Cataraqui, has grown from 100 family units on the parish list and an average age in the 70s, to 260 and an average age in the 40s and 50s. good idea! spoke recently with the rector, Ed Dallow.

JB: Ed, how did all this begin?

ED: Before I began at Christ Church in 1995, I asked my bishop for three months leave, and took that time to research congregational development.  I read widely, and attended Harold Percy’s “Beyond Survival” conference at Wycliffe. The most helpful book I read was Andrew Weeks= Welcome! published by the Alban Institute.

JB: And when you began in the parish?

ED: In the first couple of months at Christ Church, we developed a simple Mission Statement for the parish: “The Anglican Parish of Christ Church, Cataraqui is a welcoming, nurturing community seeking to celebrate and share God’s love for all creation.”  I also encouraged parishioners to perform an “audit” of parish resources, covering everything from the state and size of the parking lot to the condition of the church photocopier, and asking such questions as “Is there a suitable place for socializing after the service?” and “Would a non-Anglican newcomer be able to find their way through the service?”

JB: So what happened?

ED: One of the first things that happened was that a new couple came to our church, and I wrote them a letter of welcome. They responded straight away, saying they had never received a letter of welcome like that before. They came back to the church, and have been involved ever since.

I had made a habit of taking a bunch of carnations whenever I visited a new family. One day, I had less flowers than I had visits to make, so I called in at the bakery in Odessa and bought a loaf of fresh bread.  The elderly lady I was visiting was overwhelmed by the gift. When I told the story later, one of the congregation, Jacqui, said, “Oh, I was just given a breadmaker for Christmas. I would love to make loaves for you to take on your visits.”

Soon a system had developed. Whenever a visitor showed up on a Sunday, I would write a letter of welcome on the Monday, and then, on the Thursday or Friday of that week, two parishioners would make a Adoorstep visit@ to the newcomer–taking a homemade loaf of bread.

We have become very systematic in tracking visitors. One of the first things I did was to design a new database to meet  our congregation’s needs. With that, I can keep track of old members, new members, visitors, pastoral visits needed, and so on.

JB: You must be doing more than following up visitors to the church?

ED: Well, we have a Ways and Means Committee whose job is to “enhance the social life of the parish.” They plan one social event each month. Incidentally, 15 of the 21 members on that committee are themselves new members of the congregation. (Please mention that we appreciated the last issue of good idea! with its theme of parties. That was very relevant to our situation.)

It’s a matter of attitude as much as anything. We work on the next-door neighbour principle. If a neighbour came over to your house for a meal, how would you treat them? One new person said she was very struck by the fact that the greeeter offered to take her husband’s coat and hang it up. Well, that’s the sort of thing you would do if a neighbour came to your home.

JB: What else are you doing?

ED: Rites of passage are very important in our outreach. For instance, I offer three preparation classes for parents who want their babies baptised. To the third of those sessions I invite a couple from the parish, similar to the newcomers in age and interests, and introduce them as the parish sponsors. Together we walk through the BAS baptism service. Then, at the baptismal service, the parish sponsors meet the family, sit with them, and host them through the service, helping them whenever necessary. During the vows, the parish sponsors are asked and answer the question, “Will you who witness these vows do everything in your power to support these persons in their life in Christ?” before I turn and ask it of the congregation as a whole.  These parish sponsors host the family during coffee time, and are then responsible to keep in touch with the family over the next few months.

We also make a video of the baptism, which we offer as a gift to the family. We have a potter in the congregation who makes candle holders for the baptismal candle,  and a lady who embroiders crosses which we give to each member of the baptismal party.  A group in the church also makes a banner with the child’s name embroidered on it.

As a result, the majority of families whose children have been baptised in the past three years are still attending Christ Church.

JB: Ed, I hope this doesn’t sound critical, but in a sense you’re not doing anything new.

ED: You’re right. We’re not doing anything new. It’s all motherhood stuff. If there’s anything we’re doing that is distinctive, it’s that we are being very intentional in what we are doing. We have worked out the cost of what we want to do, we have a plan, and we’re following the plan. All I know is that people are coming, and, on the whole, they’re staying. And it’s certainly not to hear the rector’s preaching!

JB: Ed, thank you for your time.

The Rev. Ed Dallow is an Associate of the Institute of Evangelism, and is available for training seminars on welcoming. He may be contacted through the Institute.

Click here to read a response by Harold Percy.

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Ed was born and grew up in St. George, Ontario, where he was a member of Holy Trinity Anglican Church. He joined the Canadian Armed Forces in 1958 as a Soldier Apprentice, and has since served with the Royal Canadian Engineers, The Black Watch Royal Highland Regiment of Canada, and the Logistics Branch of the Canadian Armed Forces. He has also served in Command and Staff positions with various Regiments and Combat Groups in Canada, Northwest Europe, and the Middle East. After a rewarding 30 year career, Ed retired from the Canadian Armed Forces in 1988 with the rank of Major. In 1990, Ed graduated from Montreal Diocesan Theological College and was ordained a priest in the Anglican Church in the Diocese of Ontario. His first parish was Camden East, Odessa with Morven, a three point rural parish outside of Kingston. After spending 4 years in that parish Ed was chosen to become rector of Christ Church Cataraqui, a small parish in Kingston Township (now part City of Kingston). During his 10 years as rector, the parish became financially self-supporting, experienced significant numerical growth, and constructed a new multi-use worship facility. Ed served as Rector of Christ church and Archdeacon of Kingston until his retirement from parish ministry in 2006 in order to devote more time to ministry with the Ontario Provincial Police. Initially appointed as OPP Provincial Chaplain in 2003, Ed is now the OPP Director of Chaplaincy with the responsibility for recruiting and training chaplains to be deployed in the six regions policed by the OPP in the Province of Ontario. Ed is also padre for a local branch of the Royal Canadian Legion as well as the Kingston Branch of St. John Ambulance. In 2005 he was invested by the Lt. Governor of Ontario as a Serving Member of the Most Venerable Order of St. John of Jerusalem. Ed is now an Associate of Christ Church Gananoque. Married for 46 years to Lynn, a native of Holland, they have two married sons and three grandchildren. In addition to offering a Parish Development workshop on Welcoming Visitors, he also offers workshops on Evangelism and Discipleship (From Being a Visitor to Being a Disciple) and Spirituality (Sabbath Dancing – Awakening the Sacred Within).

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    Yves Pedneault
    May 2, 2010

    Hello ED

    Ed and I served together in Kingston Ontario! A very respected soldier historian who was a great friend to all.I salute you Ed! Long time ,no see!

    Yves Pedneault
    Major(retired) RCEME-EME
    Ottawa Ontario

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